Think!!! before you complain

Yesterday there was a girl who text me on social media. she was my friend but we never chat since we were exist on social media. at that time in cloudy evening she suddently text me.

* How are you?

** Im good Alhamdulillah, how about you?

*Alhamdulillah sis, may I ask you a question, are you in polygamy married?

**No, I don’t even married yet

*sorry

oh ok no problem, Im in polygamy married, I need an advice that could relate about it but that’s ok

**oh, how old are you?

where do you live?

are you first wife or second wife?

*Im 3rd, I live in (…), Im 24yo

**masyaAllah you are younger than me. then what’s the problem with polygamy?

*oh, how old are you?

Don’t worry sis I wanted ask sister who in polygamy who can relate more to situation. Thanks  Alhamdulillah it’s being dealt with having sabr . Just hard when don’t know sisters in polygamy.

**Im 28yo

it’s sunnah for men to have wife more than one. may Allah gives you reward if you sabr in it.

*yeah masyaAllah, thanks sis. aameen

It’s hard but yes it’s pleasing to Allah.
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that’s our conversation about. but that’s not my focus.
in this case if you all read carefully. there are two different case between us. first she got married but Im not yet, second she was 24yo but Im 28yo. so…. yeah people will say she was lucky than me. hhh
sisters, I just want to tell you that no matter what’s going on your life, think before you complain your life with people. because you never knew with whom you want to confide. Indeed your condition is the best for you from Allah. no matter what your problem in your home don’t ever confide to people, that is your disgrace. people don’t need to know about your condition with your husband. how you getting along, how your husband treat you, how sweet he is with you. don’t share to people it’s privacy.
sisters, if you care about your husband and your family, then you should give up this improper and illogical attitude. have you ever thought that your misconduct may lead towards breaking up your family life?. Only to Allah we complain our sorrows and troubles, He can recompense us for every pain, or every loss with which is better.
“The Prophet (PBUH) of Islam stated: ‘The prayers of a woman who teases her husband with her tongue, are not accepted (by Allah) even though she fasts everyday, gets up for the acts of worship every night, sets free a few slaves and donates her wealth in the way of Allah. A bad-tongue woman who hurts her husband in this way, is the first person who enters hell’
“The Holy Prophet (S) also stated: ‘The women of Paradise say to those women who abuse their husbands in this way: ‘May Allah kill you. Do not misbehave with your husband. This man (the husband) is not yours, and you do not deserve him. Soon he will leave you and come towards us’.”
Therefore, dear sister! For the sake of Allah, Think before you complain.
give up this habit of complaining and confide with people. Find a suitable time and then present him with your genuine problems, not by complaining, but in a consultative type of way. In this way, you do not create antagonistic feelings in him and the family bonds remain secure.

a day with Niqab

Two days ago I was travelled with my friend by motor bike.I went to puncak in west java Indonesia. it takes 3 hours riding motor bike. yeah I love traveling by motor bike. the climate was too chill and cloudy. once after I arrived on the peak, I parked my motor bike In the mosque’s parking area then we walk around the tea garden. then suddenly after we done dzuhur prayer in the mosque, there was three young girls approached us. one of them address me try to open conversation with us. she introduce herself and also her friends. then we introduce ourselves.

in our conversation, she said “she admire the niqabis”. that’s why once she meet niqabis, she approached them immediately to get to know and make a new friend. in this case I feel like the Niqabi is a queen. maysaAllah.

she said, she wish she can wear Niqab as like me, she wanted to be better Muslimah. “when I see Niqabis, I feel like so calm and modesty, she said”. she also asked me about my experience in Niqab, why do I decided to use Niqab?, what’s the difficulty during the process of wearing niqab? who are the niqabis exactly? what’s their manhaj?

I tried to explain it to her, to give an information and to make her understand that the niqabis are a Human too.

since the first time I use Niqab, I face there is no difficulty in me, my mom and my whole family accept my decision. Just like you, I also admire the niqabis, I saw they are so calm and modesty, that’s why i decided to use Niqab, because I love it from my heart. (especially for protecting myself from fitnah) not because I follow some manhaj or join with the community. No!! as long as I get along with Niqabis, they are all same with us, they came from ordinary muslimah then try to be better muslimah to please Allah S.W.T. as my experience in Niqab, day by day I realized, wearing niqab is calm and help me to increase my Iman, to be more close and close to Allah, to be more better and better, Alhamdulillah and I feel comfortable in it also because of that, many man respect me and lower their gaze and more polite when they meet me.

so don’t proud of us, we are all the sinner, we are just trying to be better muslimah. don’t proud of me too, because just like you or they before, I also wore jeans, strict shirt, fashionable hijab. yes everything has its time.

So my advice For those who wish to wear hijab or even niqab, it begins by focusing on and perfecting the niyat and make an effort. Once you put niyat back as the priority and make an effort—before your attitude then can you turn your life around.
The irony of this
 truth is that many people are deceived into thinking that they need to first fix their attitude, before they can start wearing hijab. This thinking is a dangerous trick of shaytan, who knows that it is hijab itself which will provide the fuel and guidance necessary to turn our life around and fix our attitude. As you want to know, instead of fix our attitude better we use hijab, doing it first it doesn’t just fix our attitude but it’s the way we close to Allah and become better muslimah. In sya Allah

even though sometimes I face people mocking me. but I knew they are just jealous or even hate me. they are just curious with Niqabis but they don’t brave enough to approached us and get along with us or even just to open conversation with us.but yes, yes it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t my business.

I see they are very happy meeting with us during our conversation. we talk about everything not only about Niqab and niqabis. even they asked me to taking picture together. masyaAllah I feel like celebrity. hehee 🙂