Yesterday there was a girl who text me on social media. she was my friend but we never chat since we were exist on social media. at that time in cloudy evening she suddently text me.
* How are you?
** Im good Alhamdulillah, how about you?
*Alhamdulillah sis, may I ask you a question, are you in polygamy married?
**No, I don’t even married yet
oh ok no problem, Im in polygamy married, I need an advice that could relate about it but that’s ok
**oh, how old are you?
where do you live?
are you first wife or second wife?
*Im 3rd, I live in (…), Im 24yo
**masyaAllah you are younger than me. then what’s the problem with polygamy?
*oh, how old are you?
Don’t worry sis I wanted ask sister who in polygamy who can relate more to situation. Thanks Alhamdulillah it’s being dealt with having sabr . Just hard when don’t know sisters in polygamy.
it’s sunnah for men to have wife more than one. may Allah gives you reward if you sabr in it.
*yeah masyaAllah, thanks sis. aameen
It’s hard but yes it’s pleasing to Allah.
that’s our conversation about. but that’s not my focus.
in this case if you all read carefully. there are two different case between us. first she got married but Im not yet, second she was 24yo but Im 28yo. so…. yeah people will say she was lucky than me. hhh
sisters, I just want to tell you that no matter what’s going on your life, think before you complain your life with people. because you never knew with whom you want to confide. Indeed your condition is the best for you from Allah. no matter what your problem in your home don’t ever confide to people, that is your disgrace. people don’t need to know about your condition with your husband. how you getting along, how your husband treat you, how sweet he is with you. don’t share to people it’s privacy.
sisters, if you care about your husband and your family, then you should give up this improper and illogical attitude. have you ever thought that your misconduct may lead towards breaking up your family life?. Only to Allah we complain our sorrows and troubles, He can recompense us for every pain, or every loss with which is better.
“The Prophet (PBUH) of Islam stated: ‘The prayers of a woman who teases her husband with her tongue, are not accepted (by Allah) even though she fasts everyday, gets up for the acts of worship every night, sets free a few slaves and donates her wealth in the way of Allah. A bad-tongue woman who hurts her husband in this way, is the first person who enters hell’
“The Holy Prophet (S) also stated: ‘The women of Paradise say to those women who abuse their husbands in this way: ‘May Allah kill you. Do not misbehave with your husband. This man (the husband) is not yours, and you do not deserve him. Soon he will leave you and come towards us’.”
Therefore, dear sister! For the sake of Allah, Think before you complain.
give up this habit of complaining and confide with people. Find a suitable time and then present him with your genuine problems, not by complaining, but in a consultative type of way. In this way, you do not create antagonistic feelings in him and the family bonds remain secure.