The different types of friends and which one to choose
Firstly: The one who befriends you for some worldly interest.
He is the one who befriends you for as long as he can benefit from you by way of money, status or other than that. As soon as that benefit ceases he turns into your enemy and he doesn’t know you any longer and nor do you know him. How numerous are the people of this category! And how numerous are those who complain when it comes to gaining some worldly benefit!
Allah says : “And of them are some who accuse you (O Muhammad ) in the matter of (the distribution of) the alms. If they are given part thereof, they are pleased, but if they are not given thereof, behold! They are enraged!” [Surah At-Taubah 9:58]
You think that he’s your close friend and from the most beloved people to you and that you are from the most beloved people to him, but when he asks you one day and says: “Lend me your book so that I may read through it!” and you say to him: “By Allah, I need the book today but I’ll give it to you tomorrow.” he suddenly becomes arrogant and hostile towards you. Is this a (real) friend?! This is the one who only befriends you for some worldly gain.
Secondly: The fun friend.
He only befriends you because he enjoys sitting, having conversations, socializing and staying up until late at night to have a chat with you, but he does not benefit you and nor do you benefit from him. Each one of you does not benefit the other. It is nothing else but time wasting. You similarly have to watch out when it comes to this category in order for him not to waste your precious time.
Thirdly: The good and virtuous friend.
He inspires you to do good and forbids you from doing evil. He opens up for you the doors of good and guides you towards them. And if you do a mistake he admonishes you without that you have to feel embarrassed. He is the good and virtuous friend.”
(Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy upon him)

The Prophet ﷺ once said, “People follow the religion of their friends, so everyone should consider whom they befriend.” (Muslim)

“close friends, that day, will enemies to each other, except for the righteous” (quran surah Az-Zukhruf : 67)

so, dear Muslimah choose your friend carefully because your friend can be your way to Jannah, in sya Allah ^_^




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