don’t be arrogant

Dear Sisters,

when you go to the Masjid and you see a sister with figure hugging clothes, full on makeup, nails done etc, don’t for a moment think that you’re better than her just because you wear the correct Jilbab/Niqab. Don’t for a moment wonder why she’s in the Masjid dressed up like that.
The Masjid does not belong to you. The Masjid is the House of Allah. EVERYONE is welcome. Pious ones, sinners, those seeking repentance or looking for a sense of direction. Who are you to limit it to anyone?
Rather than eyeballing that “modern” sister, remember this could be the first time she came to the Masjid. She could’ve been at some haram place but she chose to come to the House of Allah for a reason. Or she could be a regular at the Masjid. Or maybe she comes from a jahil (ignorant) family.
Maybe she’s a revert, a sister just beginning her journey to Islam. Maybe she hasn’t even reverted yet but is learning about Islam & thinks this type of dressing is more befitting than being half naked. Or maybe the sister knows all the rulings of Hijab but struggles in implementing them as she has weak Imaan.
Get up, leave your gang of Hijabi/Niqabi sisters. Make this sister feel welcome. Advise her in the BEST manner. Not in front of everyone. Take her to a side so not to embarrass her and then advise her in private. Honour her. Don’t humiliate her. Befriend her. Give her your number. Maybe all that sister needs is good company.
Remember Allah may forgive her for her sins but He won’t forgive you for your arrogance. Do not fall into the trap of Shaitaan and ever think you’re better than anyone.


Are you strong Muslimah?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

You are not strong woman if you can’t keep calm when people mocking you. When you upset once after people gives their opinion about you (your place, your dress, your work, etc). When you panic once after you know bad news. When you get angry immediately before you hear the true reason. When you dont want to accept commentary. When you block your friends once after they do something you dont like. When you think that you are better than them. When you’d rather confide about your problem to people than to Allah. When you complain and complain.

Dear Muslimah (may Allah bless you), married is easy, being solehah wife is easy but how to be best mother for best generation is the most important duty for us. It’s a big issue that every one leave it. Dont focus on yourself how to be solehah only, how to be success woman before married. But focus on how to be strong muslimah. To build new generation better than our generation. If you only think about yourself you’ll become a foam on the ocean. 

So how to be a strong woman?
Control your emotion, manage your ego, submitted your problem only to Allah swt. Confide to Him. Recite Quran and read the translation then use it in your daily life. you’ll Be strong muslimah. Strong muslimah means, positive thinking, productive, brave to show your identity then action. Strong woman is kind and humble with people. so what the action means? the action is the best action who comes from best believe, best words and best thinking. show people your power your identity, your dedication for your country. so what’s the best word? best word is when you can control your tounge and think before you give an opinion. because the best word comes from good mind. then 
What do you think? Dream. What’s dream? To build new generation.

So dont focus to “how to get married” just because everyone around you push you. But focus to “how to be best mother for best generation” we have to prepare it Because the country needs a strong woman, to create new generation. Because Good woman only for good man.

Dont give up and wake up!!!!
Jazak Allah khair


Love your religion bigger than your country

two days ago I post about it on my facebook, below:

“some of foreigner asked about the election of Jakarta, they thought we hate non-muslim but this is the fact why we avoid them to be leader in Jakarta or even in Indonesia.

The election of Governor and Vice Governor of DKI Jakarta in 2017 make sure to take a lot of attention not only the citizens of Jakarta, but the entire Indonesian community and even the international world, both through print and electronic media.

The victory of muslim jakarta, then become victory Muslim Indonesia. The defeat of Muslims in Jakarta, then the defeat of Muslims in Indonesia and even Muslims in the world.

We must be literate on the situation that must make us have a great spirit of struggle for the safety of Indonesian wholeness that the majority of the population is Muslim.

Take the example of singapore, imitating the style of lee kwan yew before coming to power in singapore.

Wear caps, go inside mosque, build madrasah. After coming to power, in just 5 years indigenous of Malay was eliminated.

Melayu’s village is drag, forced to move to flat. Learn from Singapore. Learn from countries where the majority of Muslims are now lost, expelled, excluded from their own land.

O people of Indonesia, especially the people of Jakarta. Awakening from the fear, the strength of the unity and the unity of the majority Muslim community in Indonesia is everything.

Become a more intelligent jakarta community, who want to turn into a leading society with a quality of faith that can not be bought cheaply.”


then a day after I post it, there is someone from Singapore give her comment. she look so angry, because yeah she is singapore malayan. I knew far before I post it on facebook, that it would be bother her but as you want to know, I post it on facebook not because I am indonesian, then I want to compare with singapore. NO!! NO!!

I post it because I love my religion, I love Islam more than anything. I want to share to public on facebook, I want to share to muslim around the world. that we are muslim, don’t let non-muslim lead us in our own country, our land, because we are majority here. don’t let them take our country once after they got their position.

I just want them open their eyes, open their mind and heart. that non-muslim leader is haram for muslim.

as Allah said in Al-Qur’an in some ayah:

surah Ali Imran : 28

“Let not believers take disbelievers as allies rather than believers. And whoever [of you] does that has nothing with Allah, except when taking precaution against them in prudence. And Allah warns you of Himself, and to Allah is the [final] destination.”

surah An-Nisa : 144

“O you who have believed, do not take the disbelievers as allies instead of the believers. Do you wish to give Allah against yourselves a clear case?”

Al-Maidah : 57

“O you who have believed, take not those who have taken your religion in ridicule and amusement among the ones who were given the Scripture before you nor the disbelievers as allies. And fear Allah, if you should [truly] be believers.”

surah At-Taubah : 23

“O you who have believed, do not take your fathers or your brothers as allies if they have preferred disbelief over belief. And whoever does so among you – then it is those who are the wrongdoers.”

surah Al-Mujadilah : 23

“You will not find a people who believe in Allah and the Last Day having affection for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, even if they were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their kindred. Those – He has decreed within their hearts faith and supported them with spirit from Him. And We will admit them to gardens beneath which rivers flow, wherein they abide eternally. Allah is pleased with them, and they are pleased with Him – those are the party of Allah . Unquestionably, the party of Allah – they are the successful.”

Ali Imran : 149-150

“O you who have believed, if you obey those who disbelieve, they will turn you back on your heels, and you will [then] become losers. But Allah is your protector, and He is the best of helpers.”

Al-Maidah : 51

“O you who have believed, take not those who have taken your religion in ridicule and amusement among the ones who were given the Scripture before you nor the disbelievers as allies. And fear Allah, if you should [truly] be believers.”


it’s clear in Qur’an that Allah forbid us to do not take non-muslim as a leader.

not because her leader (in singapore) free from corruption, not because her goverment better than ours. no.. but I just want muslim around the world think and open their eyes their mind. and understand the fact of that issue and understand islamic law. we have to obey our Lord Allah swt than our president, king or queen. don’t let we love them until they control us. even eliminate you (muslim) from your country until you become minority in your own country.

I share it on facebook to make people understand and open their eyes, that we are indonesian muslim, do not want to loss our country. we don’t want non-muslim eliminate muslim from indonesia then become minority.

but I see, she loves her country more than her religion. if she loves Islam more than her country, she will understand and open mind that is true. her muslim in her country eliminated by non-muslim leader. 5 years after he got his position in her country.

yes this is fact that her country better than my country, but look! it under non-muslim control. do you love non-muslim control you?

Dear Muslim, we have to open our eyes and mind. it’s time for rise and take our victory again. this is the end of this world. so where we will return? we’ll return to hereafter, we will leave this world, so don’t put our heart to this world. don’t let our heart love this world and blind our eyes from islamic law.

Men and Women

**The purpose of creation of men and women

Allah said in Qur’an:

“And I (Allah) created not the jinn and men except they should worship
Me (Alone).” (V. 51:56)

“Rather, worship [only] Allah and be among the grateful.” (V. 39:66)

“Say (O Muhammad !): ‘Verily, I am commanded to worship Allah by obeying Him and doing religious deeds sincerely for His sake only.” (V. 39: 11)


**Equality of Men and Women as regards Religious Obligations and Retribution.

And whoever does righteous deeds, whether male or female, while being a believer – those will enter Paradise and will not be wronged, [even as much as] the speck on a date seed. (An-Nisa : 124)

Whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while he is a believer – We will surely cause him to live a good life, and We will surely give them their reward [in the Hereafter] according to the best of what they used to do.(An-Nahl : 97)

The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and establish prayer and give zakah and obey Allah and His Messenger. Those – Allah will have mercy upon them. Indeed, Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise.(At-Tawbah : 71)

Indeed, the Muslim men and Muslim women, the believing men and believing women, the obedient men and obedient women, the truthful men and truthful women, the patient men and patient women, the humble men and humble women, the charitable men and charitable women, the fasting men and fasting women, the men who guard their private parts and the women who do so, and the men who remember Allah often and the women who do so – for them Allah has prepared forgiveness and a great reward.(Al-Ahzab : 35)

**Biologically Men and Women are two different sexes but complementary
to each other:

One may well ask that if there is such a complete and comprehensive spiritual
equality between the two sexes, why is this identical treatment not found in
other rights, duties and privileges. Muslims and especially non-Muslims
question why men go out to work while women are encouraged to stay at
home, why women have to wear the Hijāb (veil), why a brother receives a larger share of inheritance than his sister, why a man can be a ruler but a
woman can not, etc., and they then conclude that Islam treats women as
inferior beings. Laws can never be discussed without being explained first, so
we must first consider the fundamental Islamic ethos that men and women are
two different yet complementary sexes. It is an established medical fact that
men and women have different biological compositions and temperaments.
Allah the All-Mighty created and knows this biological difference better than
we do, and has thus assigned to men and women the roles that each excels in
due to its nature. Neither gender is inferior or superior to the other; instead they
complement each other like the two halves of a whole. In everyday life we see
that society consists of many different kinds of people, all of whom play their
particular roles to keep society intact. The farmer and the doctor make different
contributions to the society, but both are equally important. Each excels in his
own field, and each provides a service for the other. Similarly, men and women
are different sexes and play vital roles in their own areas of excellence.


*source : Dr. Suhaib Hasan


when is my turn?

nowadays Married is quite big problem for women. as we know world female population is more than male population.

In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. New York alone has one million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. The U.S.A as a whole has more than twenty-five million gays. This means that these people do not wish to marry women. Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Russia has nine million more females than males. God alone knows how many million more females there are in the whole world as compared to males.

few days ago a woman told her problem, of course it’s about married. she worried because her family push her to get married, her friends always ask about it. the problem is she doesnt have boyfriend or even candidate.

It was narrated from Aishah that: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “Marriage is part of my sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah has nothing to do with me. Get married, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him get married, and whoever does not, then he should fast for it will diminish his desire.”
(Sunan Ibn Majah, Vol. 3, Book 9, Hadith 1846)

Dear Sister, your problem is depend on how you face your problem not the problem itself. the reasons we’re unhappy is we think too much. Keep your mind away from negative thoughts and people. Positive thoughts go a long way. don’t pay attention for people say about your personal life (especially married).

when people try to harm, try to say things. don’t be worried about what the world will utter about you. they have to say bad things, it’s their test. because the devil is around making everybody jealous. you know the truth you know your life, why you so sad? you can’t block the mouths of the people. people will say what they want, don’t worry about what people have to say they will continue saying things, dont even look at it. just smile and carry on.

instead of think about what people have to say better you turn to Allah and try to be a good Muslimah.

not being married gives you more time to learn from married couples and their mistake, learn the deen (religion) and become a better person, doing dawah projects which would not be possible if you were married.

the common question is “when is your turn?” then you will think “why Am I still not married?” yes why???? then when is my turn???

Dear Sister, so why?? why? yes why are you still not married?

first, because you are not ready yet. Allah knows you are not ready yet. Allah wants you to learn a few things before you get married. second, Allah wants you to accomplish certain things before tying the knot (marriage). third, to save you from any heartache. imagine if you were to get married straight away. you wouldn’t really appreciate the need for a partner and how life sucks without them. imagine the pain if you were to get married, have a kid, then get divorced, then the case goes to court. after all of that you end up heartbroken. may people don’t get want to get married after that. so to save you from all of that, Allah is just saying “WAIT”

so how do you go about getting married?

  1. Approach your parents, have a conversation with them.
  2. make dua, you cant do something as big as this. “sincere heart and righteous dua are two armies that can never be defeated.” – Ibn Taymiyyah
  3. you work on yourself, you perfect yourself. make yourself ready to get married.

Dear Sister, focus on pleasing Allah not pleasing everyone. ask to Allah your criteria of your future husband, just ask to Allah don’t be afraid of making dua, everything belongs to Allah and your future is in His control. as you know that good woman only for good man. so perfect yourself especially your deen, your inner beauty. as long as you do better for yourself Allah will answer your dua and give you the best partner. in sya Allah.

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be losers.
(Bukhari Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27)

“so be patient, indeed, the promise of Allah is truth” (QS. Ar-Rum : 60)


People ask me,
Why are you single? You are attractive, intelligent and creative.
My reply is
“I am overqualified” hehe




How beautiful woman in Islam

“If you educate a man, you educate an individual, if you educate a woman you educate a family.”

The reason is that man gets busy in earning his livelihood and in other affairs of life getting education and training. Therefore he is left with neither any opportunity nor leisure to work for the correction and reformation of the other members of the society. On the other hand, Allah has created woman totally different from man. When she grows up and emerges as a wife or mother leaving behind the stage of daughter or sisters. She develpos warm and passionate love with her husband and children. As Allah has endowed her with the capacity of efficaciousness, he has also blessed her with the quality of influencing others. As she conquers her husband with her sweet and kind temper and her coquetry, she influences her children many times better than it due to the deep abiding bond of motherhood. that is why a thinker says “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.” and only that woman can be the true ruler who is properly educated and trained.

Aisha bint Abu Bakar RA Umm-Al-Mu’minin (Mother of Believers). is the lucky woman who was born and bread in Abu Bakar’s house and got elementary education from there. She is that model lady who, during her adolescense and youth got, special education and training under the kind supervision of the affections and compassions of the preceptor of minkind Rasulullah Muhammad saw. She is that fortunate and sagacious woman whose curriculum of reading was revealed from the skies which was designed and arranged by Allah, the creator of the universe. The point of meditation is what would have been the status of the great character, magnificense of the attributes of learning and morality, and height of the perfection of personality who had undergone these three blessed and sacred factors in order to obtain education and training.

it’s a fact that every mother wishes to educate and train her daugther in a way that not only her own personality but also all the good traits that can be found in the world of possibilities, may be reflected in her being so that she may look a complete model of effeminacy. certainly, Aisah RA, the mother of all the true Muslimah who is embellished with all the sterling traits of head and heart, also yearn to see all of her own attributes in all her sons and especially in daugthers.

in Islam seeking knowledge is obligation for every Muslim. Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Seeking knowledge is an obligation upon every Muslim.”-Sunan Ibn Majah 224.

Abu Musa (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “The guidance and knowledge with which Allah has sent me are like abundant rain which fell on a land. A fertile part of it absorbed the water and brought forth profuse herbage and pasture; and solid ground patches which retained the water by which Allah has benefited people, who drank from it, irrigated their crops and sowed their seeds; and another sandy plane which could neither retain the water nor produce herbage. Such is the similitude of the person who becomes well-versed in the religion of Allah and receives benefit from the Message entrusted to me by Allah, so he himself has learned and taught it to others; such is also the similitude of the person who has stubbornly and ignorantly rejected Allah’s Guidance with which I have been sent.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
**Commentary: This Hadith has already been mentioned, and is repeated here to highlight the eminence of knowledge and to induce Muslims to gain it. We learn from this Hadith that there are three categories of people. First, those who acquire knowledge of the Qur’an and Hadith, act upon it and also impart it to others. Such people benefit from this knowledge themselves and extend this benefit to others also. By virtue of this quality they are the best of all. Second, those people who acquire knowledge and impart it to others, but do not fulfill the requirements of that knowledge. Such people are inferior in rank to the people of the first category and can be taken to task for their omissions. Third, those who shun the knowledge of the Qur’an and Hadith. Neither they study and hear the two themselves for their own benefit, nor do they acquire knowledge to impart it to others for their benefit. This is the worst category of people. Every Muslim should try to be in the first category of the people

so as long as education, training and correction on the part of women is not started, no real progress can be possible, no success can be achieved and no reformation of the society can be effective. as a Muslimah it necessary to seeking knowledge especially in our religion. because we are the first school for our new generation and we produce the best generation for this world.

so How beautiful woman in Islam? when people said Oppressed, inferior, and unequal to them. Instead Islam raised the status of Muslimah by give them education. In Islam women and men are equal (also in education). Allah clearly states that all humans are equal: “To whoever, male or female, does good deeds and has faith, We shall give a good life and reward them according to the best of their actions.” (Quran Surah An-Nahl : 97)

So Muslimah (may Allah bless you), woman in Islam is important position in this world. do not believe that yourself is below anyone just because you are Muslimah, just because you are wearing Hijab/Niqab. do not believe that your Hijab/Niqab limit your ability, limit your world.

Education is the power. Education is education and it’s the right of every human being.

Be an Educated woman!!!


*source : Riyadus Saleheen, O Muslim Sister, Maulana Masood Azhar.,




Misunderstanding (polygamy)

few days ago I shared about definition of polygamy’s video on you tube to facebook.

then someone inbox me just because he’s not agree with me. he gave me the explanation about his opinion. below:

1 – Plural marriage helps to increase the numbers of the ummah (nation, Muslim community). It is known that the numbers can only be increased through marriage, and the number of offspring gained through plural marriage will be greater than that achieved through marriage to one wife. Wise people know that increasing the number of offspring will strengthen the ummah and increase the number of workers in it, which will raise its economic standard – if the leaders run the affairs of state well and make use of its resources in a proper manner. Ignore the claims of those who say that increasing the numbers of human beings poses a danger to the earth’s resources which are insufficient, for Allaah the Most Wise Who has prescribed plural marriage has guaranteed to provide provision for His slaves and has created on earth what is more than sufficient for them. Whatever shortfall exists is due to the injustice of administrations, governments and individuals, and due to bad management. Look at China, for example, the greatest nation on earth as far as number of inhabitants is concerned, and it is regarded as one of the strongest nations in the world, and other nations would think twice before upsetting China; it is also one of the great industrialized nations. Who would dare think of attacking China, I wonder? And why?

2 – Statistics show that the number of women is greater than the number of men; if each man were to marry just one woman, this would mean that some women would be left without a husband, which would have a harmful effect on her and on society: The harmful effect is that she would never find a husband to take care of her interests, to give her a place to live, to spend on her, to protect her from haraam desires, and to give her children to bring her joy. This may lead to deviance and going astray, except for those on whom Allaah has mercy. With regard to the harmful effects on society, it is well known that this woman who is left without a husband may deviate from the straight path and follow the ways of promiscuity, so she may fall into the swamp of adultery and prostitution – may Allaah keep us safe and sound – which leads to the spread of immorality and the emergence of fatal diseases such as AIDS and other contagious diseases for which there is no cure. It also leads to family breakdown and the birth of children whose identity is unknown, and who do not know who their fathers are. Those children do not find anyone to show compassion towards them or any mature man to raise them properly. When they go out into the world and find out the truth, that they are illegitimate, that is reflected in their behaviour, and they become exposed to deviance and going astray. They may even bear grudges against society, and who knows? They may become the means of their country’s destruction, leaders of deviant gangs, as is the case in many nations in the world.

3 – Men are exposed to incidents that may end their lives, for they work in dangerous professions. They are the soldiers who fight in battle, and more men may die than women. This is one of the things that raise the percentage of husbandless women, and the only solution to this problem is plural marriage.

4 – There are some men who may have strong physical desires, for whom one wife is not enough. If the door is closed to such a man and he is told, you are not allowed more than one wife, this will cause great hardship to him, and his desire may find outlets in forbidden ways. In addition to that, a woman menstruates each month, and when she gives birth, she bleeds for forty days (this post-partum bleeding is called nifaas in Arabic), at which time a man cannot have intercourse with his wife, because intercourse at the time of menstruation or nifaas is forbidden, and the harm that it causes has been proven medically. So plural marriage is permitted when one is able to be fair and just.

5 – Plural marriage does not exist only in the Islamic religion, rather it was known among the previous nations. Some of the Prophets were married to more than one woman. The Prophet of Allaah Sulaymaan (Solomon) had ninety wives. At the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), there were some men who became Muslims who had eight or five wives. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told them to keep four wives and to divorce the rest.

6 – A wife may be barren, or she may not meet her husband’s needs, or he may be unable to have intercourse with her because she is sick. A husband may long to have children, which is a legitimate desire, and he may want to have a sex life within marriage, which is something permissible, and the only way is to marry another wife. It is only fair for the wife to agree to remain his wife and to allow him to marry another.

7 – A woman may be one of the man’s relatives and have no one to look after her, and she is unmarried or a widow whose husband has died, and the man may think that the best thing to do for her is to include her in his household as a wife along with his first wife, so that he will both keep her chaste and spend on her. This is better for her than leaving her alone and being content only to spend on her.

8 – There are other shar’i interests that call for plural marriages, such as strengthening the bonds between families, or strengthening the bonds between a leader and some of his people or group, and he may think that one of the ways of achieving this aim is to become related to them through marriage, even if that is through plural marriage. Noor did u hear about that lady who converted to islam because she was astonished by wisdom of polygamy in islam ,she married in polygamy after she migrated to pakistan so she practiced what she had believed


yes, I guess not everyone has same understanding, easy understanding about that video. because its duration is only 1 minute 20 second. so he guess me, that I’m not agree with polygamy, that video talks about “marry only one” and He guess that video has misconception about marriage in Islam. no no no….

yes his explanation is correct but I’m not focus on his explanation. I will give you all the definition about polygamy and explanation about that video.


** definition of polygamy

Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is polygyny where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In Islam, limited polygyny is permitted; whereas polyandry is completely prohibited. Now coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than one wife?

**the explanation about that video

The Qur’an is the only religious scripture in the world that says, “marry only one”. The Qur’an is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one. Many Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple wives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had several wives. In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one. Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had three wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygyny continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an edict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife. (*Interesting Note:- As per the 1975 census of India Hindus are more polygynous than Muslims. The report of the ‘Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam’, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66 and 67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages between the years 1951 and 1961 was 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among the Muslims. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Despite it being illegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to Muslims. Earlier, there was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the Hindu scriptures.) Let us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.


So My understanding of that video is. Only islam make marriage easy. another religion didnt give permission about married. They marry only one (restricted the number of wives to one) but islam gives permission, you can marry only one then you can marry 4 (” And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].” An nisa : 3)

Before the Qur’an was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygyny and many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds.  Islam put an upper limit of four wives. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women, only on the condition that he deals justly with them. In the same chapter i.e. Surah Nisa verse 129 says: “Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women….” [Al-Qur’an 4:129]

Therefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception.  Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one wife. Broadly, Islam has five categories of Do’s and Don’ts:

(i)    ‘Fard’ i.e. compulsory or obligatory

(ii)   ‘Mustahab’ i.e. recommended or encouraged

(iii)  ‘Mubah’ i.e. permissible or allowed

(iv)   ‘Makruh’ i.e. not recommended or discouraged

(v)    ‘Haraam’ i.e. prohibited or forbidden Polygyny falls in the middle category of things that are permissible. It cannot be said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as compared to a Muslim who has only one wife.

*source : Islamic Research Foundation