nowadays Married is quite big problem for women. as we know world female population is more than male population.
In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. New York alone has one million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. The U.S.A as a whole has more than twenty-five million gays. This means that these people do not wish to marry women. Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Russia has nine million more females than males. God alone knows how many million more females there are in the whole world as compared to males.
few days ago a woman told her problem, of course it’s about married. she worried because her family push her to get married, her friends always ask about it. the problem is she doesnt have boyfriend or even candidate.
It was narrated from Aishah that: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “Marriage is part of my sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah has nothing to do with me. Get married, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him get married, and whoever does not, then he should fast for it will diminish his desire.”
(Sunan Ibn Majah, Vol. 3, Book 9, Hadith 1846)
Dear Sister, your problem is depend on how you face your problem not the problem itself. the reasons we’re unhappy is we think too much. Keep your mind away from negative thoughts and people. Positive thoughts go a long way. don’t pay attention for people say about your personal life (especially married).
when people try to harm, try to say things. don’t be worried about what the world will utter about you. they have to say bad things, it’s their test. because the devil is around making everybody jealous. you know the truth you know your life, why you so sad? you can’t block the mouths of the people. people will say what they want, don’t worry about what people have to say they will continue saying things, dont even look at it. just smile and carry on.
instead of think about what people have to say better you turn to Allah and try to be a good Muslimah.
not being married gives you more time to learn from married couples and their mistake, learn the deen (religion) and become a better person, doing dawah projects which would not be possible if you were married.
the common question is “when is your turn?” then you will think “why Am I still not married?” yes why???? then when is my turn???
Dear Sister, so why?? why? yes why are you still not married?
first, because you are not ready yet. Allah knows you are not ready yet. Allah wants you to learn a few things before you get married. second, Allah wants you to accomplish certain things before tying the knot (marriage). third, to save you from any heartache. imagine if you were to get married straight away. you wouldn’t really appreciate the need for a partner and how life sucks without them. imagine the pain if you were to get married, have a kid, then get divorced, then the case goes to court. after all of that you end up heartbroken. may people don’t get want to get married after that. so to save you from all of that, Allah is just saying “WAIT”
so how do you go about getting married?
- Approach your parents, have a conversation with them.
- make dua, you cant do something as big as this. “sincere heart and righteous dua are two armies that can never be defeated.” – Ibn Taymiyyah
- you work on yourself, you perfect yourself. make yourself ready to get married.
Dear Sister, focus on pleasing Allah not pleasing everyone. ask to Allah your criteria of your future husband, just ask to Allah don’t be afraid of making dua, everything belongs to Allah and your future is in His control. as you know that good woman only for good man. so perfect yourself especially your deen, your inner beauty. as long as you do better for yourself Allah will answer your dua and give you the best partner. in sya Allah.
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be losers.
(Bukhari Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27)
“so be patient, indeed, the promise of Allah is truth” (QS. Ar-Rum : 60)
People ask me,
Why are you single? You are attractive, intelligent and creative.
My reply is
“I am overqualified” hehe